I'm not trying to be ugly but...

Has anyone ever said this to you and then said something really really ugly. Or "I'm not trying to be mean", "no disrespect intended", or my new favorite "I'm not like this but... ". It's funny that we think that saying those phrases first is going to make everything okay, and the person we are talking to think that we are normally beautiful, sweet, respectful and usually do everything proper. Nothing has happened and no one has said this to me lately... just something I was pondering while cutting up okra for supper. Ummm fried okra got to go!